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At Trellis we do not provide counselling directly. We are a resource centre. This means that we share resources, provide education and training and also link you together with counsellors that we think may be appropriate.

We are continuing to refine and redevelop the counsellors that we recommend as a part of the resources that are available to you. If you see a counsellor, there are many different things that you can do to make the most of that experience.

Be brave

Taking the first step and picking up the phone to book an appointment is hard. In God’s strength you are able to do it, rest in him for courage.

Be open and honest

Be honest with your counsellor and with yourself. God works best when we as open, honest and real about everything that is happening as we can be. When we truthfully speak of what is happening, the hardships that we face and the challenges of life he is busy right in the middle of it all. Healing happens even in the courage and strength that God gives us to bring different things into the light and continues to happen as together with your counsellor you are able to see your story in the light of how God sees it.

As much as you can, let others know that you are going to see a counsellor

Let your friends or family know as they can continue to help you make sense what is happening in your day-to-day life. Perhaps even have someone whom you can debrief with after your sessions. This will help you move through everything that you have been advised in your session and you call pull apart anything that may clash with your worldview. So much more of the change and growth happens in our relationships outside of the counsellors’ office, if we have people around us to help us with transferring what we know into every-day life it is so much more powerful.

Ask questions

There may be times that you are unsure, confused or uneasy about what is happening, in your life or in the counselling sessions, when this happens don’t be afraid to ask questions. Ask questions of your counsellor and hopefully they will be able to direct you in the right direction. Ask questions of the people around you, they might have some unique insight or a different perspective that may be helpful as you try to make sense of different experiences.

You can also ask questions of Trellis. We are a resource centre, which makes it partly our job to be able to direct you in the right direction for answers. We cannot promise that we will know everything, but we do promise that we will do our very best to support you and direct you to where you might be able to find answers.

Continue to surround yourself with strong, solid people.

This can be hard, especially when we are moving through difficult times. We can be tempted to hide the truth of what is really happening, to only have surface level conversations and to not seek the support of the people that God has put in our lives. So much healing, growth and change happens through the relationships we have in the body of Christ. We cannot deny that and we need to use it as the gift that God has meant for it to be. Pray that you can humbly ask for help where it is needed and that you can be vulnerable and real about the difficulties that you face.

This doesn’t mean that everyone needs to know everything. That is not safe. Instead, find the people that are safe for you and invest in those relationships. In is in the safety of the body of Christ that we can truly heal and grow.

Where appropriate, continue to link together with your elders.

As much as you feel comfortable, let your elders know what is happening. They have been given to us as a gift from God to support us spiritually and at times will be able to offer guidance in areas that your counsellor may not.

Pray

Prayer is such a powerful tool. A powerful tool that can be used before, after and during your counselling sessions. A powerful tool that gives you strength and courage so that you can do the things that you need to do. Most of all it is a powerful tool that draws you closer in relationship with God which brings healing and is something that spills over into our relationships with those around us.